Once upon a time I owned a gorgeous birth center here in LA. It was a dream of mine as there were no birth centers open in LA at the time. The Hollywood Birth Center (the midwives that did my home births) had closed its doors, and I was passionate about seeing this as an option for families. My vision with The Sanctuary was to make it as mainstream as possible so that families who didn't see themselves as "crunchy home birthers" could envision out of the hospital birthing. My practice of course has come full circle... I decided that the group practice that we envisioned as giving the midwives balance actually diluted the care in a way that I personally at this point in my career I wasn't...
Over the last several months I have been supporting my best friend and client with her devastating discovery that she would not only not be able to have another HBAC (Home Birth after Cesarean), but is also mourning the loss of her uterus and plans for future children.
Midwifery can be beautiful, triumphant and inspiring, as it was with Desiree's last pregnancy and successful HBAC But can also mean listening to loss, heartbreak and very scary and difficult choices. This is all that much harder when the woman is also your best friend. After doing her research, finding her team and grieving these losses, my beautiful friend posted the following on Instagram for her followers. Desi i...
Last week my hospital client delivered at 40 weeks and 3 days. Meaning I had a week before my next client was in her due window (37-42 weeks) and I would need to be on call again. I started to wrack my brain where could I go to get out of town for a few days.
Ok admit it...I picked this photo for shock value. I've never have poured my menstrual blood into my plants. But I have heard its quite good for them. We often pump the water from a birth tub into a garden if possible for these very benefits. But that's not what this post is really about.
I grew up with a feminist mother and my first tampon was an OB. So I quickly was schooled on being very careful with what we put inside our vaginas. No douching ever! my mom told me...no need... but if you do, water and vinegar only. OB tampons are obviously more natural, they have no applicators, so I learned and became familiar with my own lady bits a...
I woke to this in my inbox and a hummingbird right out side my door as I opened it this morning...off to a beautiful start!!!
"I had the natural, drug-free birth I desired and Blyss played a huge role in allowing that to happen. I felt deeply, fully supported on an emotional and physical level before, during and after the birth.
Even though I hired her last-minute, Blyss really took the time to get to know my husband and I before the big day. She went beyond standard "birth preferences" to get to know us at a deeper level in just a few conversations. Blyss made me feel so at ease, and I was comfortable being totally open right away which is important for someone who is going to support you in...
A recent article asks. Good point, why are we asking doctors what women need in childbirth? This article fittingly titled Birth Monopoly states "It may be hard for those of us born and raised in the U.S. to wrap our heads around the fact that midwife-led care is the global Gold Standard for mother/baby health. For just a moment, though, suspend what you think you know, and consider that the U.S. has a uniquely dysfunctional system of maternity care, along with some famously poor outcomes for mothers and babies. It’s helpful, then, to look outside our own system to see how things can be done better. "
This is a point I personally have been attempting to make for over 20 year...
Today we officially announced the closing of our birth center The Sanctuary. Here is a part of the letter I wrote for our website.
"To our sweet loving supportive community,
After nearly 9 years The Sanctuary will be closing its doors. Aleks and I built this beautiful community in the hopes that it would change lives, transform the way birth was managed and perceived in this country, we believed that Los Angeles deserved a birth center, we envisioned a community for families with collaboration of wonderful practitioners. A place for lectures and movie nights and prenatal yoga and cloth diapers and mama's simply hanging out together. We were able to see each of these visions come to fruiti...
This is one of the hardest post I have ever done...
The day I thought we would be married
I said: what about my eyes?
God said: Keep them on the road.
I said: what about my passion?
God said: Keep it burning.
I said: what about my heart?
God said: Tell me what you hold inside it?
I said: pain and sorrow
He said: ..stay with it.
The wound is the place where the Light enters you.
The wound is gaping, we split months ago....In this relationship I grappled with my own belief systems, a difficult set of "circumstances", the death of my ideologies and worked hard to open my self to this beautiful man, who loved me in a way that I had never experienced before. I opened and trusted deeper than...
So yesterday I took my first official test in my new midwifery school. So happy to say after the very emotional week that I have had...and PLENTY of distractions from my homework, I passed the test with flying colors! The night before, knowing that I had one night left to cram for my exam, I accepted an invitation from a friend to come over and help my 10 year old son cook his homework which would then be our dinner. Even though I didn't have dinner duty, I had a hard time really focusing on the work at hand. I forced myself to go to bed at 9 pm with a paper left to do and a 5 am wake up call. (I leave for San Diego every Friday at 6 am to arrive for class).
If I get it all down on paper, it's no longer inside of me,
Threatening the life it belongs to
And I feel like I'm naked in front of the crowd
Cause these words are my diary, screaming out loud
And I know that you'll use them, however you want to
-Anna Nalick (Just Breathe)
I knew the question would come or maybe everyone was wondering but only one person asked. "Why did you do it?" This day has been coming for a few years. Every decision I make is VERY conscious. I am what some would call an "overthinker"... some people think I am an over sharer too:) What follows is my truest...truth as I can tell you in this moment. (Disclaimer: I am going to use bad language and not be grammatically...